One thing that I've learned that is very
important for Aspies is their inner plan. Mess up their plan for the day
and all hell breaks loose. But.... the problem is that most people
don't know their plan and it doesn't get voiced, so as an innocent
bystander you are completely flabbergasted when a huge meltdown ensues
because an inner plan got messed up. One time my husband explained a
situation to a psychiatrist friend of ours of how upset he was when I
changed the plan on him one day and
because I changed the plan I made him lose his hat. The thing that
struck me about the conversation is that the psychiatrist looked at him
and calmly said did you tell your wife your plan? If not, how could she
know she was breaking it. The same issues with the plan happen with our
son. If I pick him up after school and we have a last minute errand to
run sometimes a meltdown ensues because that's not how he planned the
evening to go.
Here is an interesting article on teaching Plan flexibility. Very useful for any Nero-typical working with an Aspie.
http://special-ism.com/my-plan-vs-your-plan-seven-tips-for-parents-to-promote-a-shift-in-your-childs-rigid-thinking/
No comments:
Post a Comment